Yeah agree about modern socmed like part of being a teenager is being cringe and awful lmao they just need spaces where they can do and be that. Spaces where I do not have to perceive them...
You're v right as well about the fine line between what about an idol is 'up for grabs' in an rpf sense and what is 'off-limits'? Being an idol means putting so much of yourself on show that I think sometimes people forget that a line does still exist, but personal tragedies and relationships definitely feel like crossing the line. I feel the same way about putting actual family members into fics - fine if it's "XYZ's mom" but actually naming their siblings etc. feels kinda off!
But then again I've also seen some canon fics deal with extremely heavy real-life tragedies in a way that doesn't feel exploitative? And fiction can be a way for people to process difficult emotions such as grief and it feels equally bad to tell people what they can or can't do as long as no one is getting hurt (i.e. the fics in question aren't being shared with the idols)...
All this to say that my thoughts are also all scrambled in my brain!! As with many things I suspect there is no bright line and everyone will have their own boundaries on what they are/are not willing to engage with, and intention probably also makes a difference, though that's hard to pin down. V interesting to think about though, thank you for bringing it up and giving me all these thoughts!
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You're v right as well about the fine line between what about an idol is 'up for grabs' in an rpf sense and what is 'off-limits'? Being an idol means putting so much of yourself on show that I think sometimes people forget that a line does still exist, but personal tragedies and relationships definitely feel like crossing the line. I feel the same way about putting actual family members into fics - fine if it's "XYZ's mom" but actually naming their siblings etc. feels kinda off!
But then again I've also seen some canon fics deal with extremely heavy real-life tragedies in a way that doesn't feel exploitative? And fiction can be a way for people to process difficult emotions such as grief and it feels equally bad to tell people what they can or can't do as long as no one is getting hurt (i.e. the fics in question aren't being shared with the idols)...
All this to say that my thoughts are also all scrambled in my brain!! As with many things I suspect there is no bright line and everyone will have their own boundaries on what they are/are not willing to engage with, and intention probably also makes a difference, though that's hard to pin down. V interesting to think about though, thank you for bringing it up and giving me all these thoughts!